^kinky!!

Like this

Why is it that when you start talking to a girl, and she's REALLY normal and REALLY cool, and then you have sex with them, and for some reason it opens up a flood gate of crazy?

Exactly!

I rarely ever seek the approval of my friends. Mostly because I like to live my life by my heart and I have never really cared what other people think of my man. Honestly my best friend cant stand the fact that I am still physically involved with my ex husband but that aint stopping me at all. Neither of us is in a new relationship and we still need companionship so why not keep it going, its not like the sex was what broke us up. I think that the girls that are dumping you may just use their friends as a scapegoat. And since it appears (based on your posts in this thread alone) that you judge people based on stereotypes, you will continue to experience these problems until you can check the attitude at the door.




not me...yet
I want FFM and FMM one day



For women sex is not just a physical connection but the pathway to a more emotional connection as well. Do you treat these women differently after sex than you did before they gave you the poon? If so, that is probably the problem. But if not than maybe telling the girl up front what your post-coitus expectations are would help to avoid this situation in the future. Yea you might miss out on some sex from time to time but unless you think the drama is worth it just go home and take a cold one.

I agree with Jen for most girls, it is an emotional thing and something they "treasure" about themselves, and convince themselves that they only give it up for someone special. For me, I just want constant access and once a day is just not enough.


As for the threesome thing, I havent, but I definetely want to!

Maybe you two should hook up. You could find a guy in this thread too, if you want.

Here's one for ya. It's pretty personal so I had to hide it.
How many of the women on here masterb**e?

Everyone does it Bhartz. Its a good way to find out what makes you "tick" so you can share that with the person you are with.

Sex is such an emotional experience for women. It is an act that places complete vulnerability on the woman and exposes her fully.. not just her body/skill but all of her. With this all exposed, they desire to have ALL of themselves accepted and treasured by the one they are having sex with... by the one they are sharing themselves with. If they feel at all like their partner isn't completely loving and enjoying ALL they have to offer... they'll probably go a bit crazy as internal and external retaliation. :-) That's just one opinion.

Well, a few great answers to my question... to answer this: No, I don't treat them differently. I'm a pretty easy going guy, and I don't like to change things that much... I guess I'm just wondering why it seems like some girls need to release it on you all at once... instead of maybe in small incriments over time. I mean, I know everyone is crazy in their own way, it's just a matter of how slowly you can let your partner in on your craziness... that way, once they find out how totally wacked out you are, you've already got them hooked anyway.

Instead though, I end up with the girls who feel the need to tell me that they met their biological father when they were 20 while working at an STD clinic, and before they found out it was their dad, they had to fondle his "dangly parts". And that they have 26 illegitimate brothers and sisters. And that all of their ex-boyfriends beat them, and that they want to marry me this weekend and have babies. I mean, c'mon... what am I supposed to do with that? Why do I seem to attract these people??

Also... you know how Kelly tells Ryan she's pregnant... Why the hell do girls actually do that??? Seriously... that's messed up... I've had three different girls do that to me. Someone explain this. Please!

I have not. I would do MMF if the situation arose [so to speak].



Everyone is different. Some girls take sex VERY seriously. Girls who take sex seriously will probably expect more out of you once she gives that part of herself to you.



Um, who doesn't? Am I missing something?

Wow, I'm kind of glad I'm not the only person taking this thread down the wrong path. I really don't know what to ask. I'll think of something later. Kind of more G-rated than the recent questions lol.

Daniel

I haven't but would like to. MMF would be my preference.




Maybe you are sending out strange vibes? Sex for "some" woman is very emotional. I'm not like that. I can have a **** buddy and not get all emotional unless the guy lets on there is more than just sex involved. Which they ofthe times do, I think cuz they think that's what the girl wants to hear.




Duh!!!! Who doesn't????

I've heard girls say they dont care about looks yet they always go after the hot guy.
I've heard girls say they dont care about money but then they diss the broke guy.
I've heard girls say they don't care if a guy is good in bed or not because it's love thats important yet they are quick to dump him if he's not good.

Are these all hypocrisy's? Or maybe its just the girls who make these statements are flaky and shallow?

I'm going with flaky and shallow. I think every girl is flaky and shallow to some degree (I'm including myself in this.)

Considering what we have been talking about later I thought this might be fun to share. Don't really believe in this stuff but it is fun.

I'm a Virgo and it doesn't sound anything like me. On the other hand, my wife is also a Virgo and it sounds exactly like her. Must only apply to women.

I'm a Scorpio and its pretty close.

I'm on the cusp of Libra and Scorpio. Libra was nothing like me, Scorpio not far off.

Do girls prefer guys that are big and muscular, or small and cut?

See, that horoscope thing for me sounds about right because I've always found myself sexually attracted to Leo's, Sattitartiuses(Sattitarti?), Gemini's and Aquariuses. I'm an Aries btw.

Daniel

I care about all those things you named but I have never claimed that I don't.



I'm an Aries and most of it doesn't sound like me (except the being impatient part).



Big and muscular. I need to be able to feel feminine next to my man. If he's smaller than me, it gives me a complex.

good point.....i'm only 5'8" and i dated a 6ft girl for awhile
and it was always awkward standing next to her but she was so awesome i just ignored the awkwardness.
maybe i should have worn clogs like tom cruise did when he acted with nicole kidman.

Either is fine but I'm only 5'3" so I wouldn't want to date someone who is really huge. I also could never date someone shorter then me. Fortunately that has never been an issue.

Girls, what is the best way a guy can impress you and get you to go on a date?

I care about all of them and am honest about it, although the good in bed one is half true. Theres salvageable bad, when you can teach him, I wouldnt dump him. When I was younger I might have said some of those because I didnt want to seem shallow, but I wasn't really being honest with myself.



I'm a Virgo and it sounds waaaay off






Totally agree. I'm 5'7" and curvy, my last boyfriend was 5'2" and skinnier than me. I totally had a complex whenever I was with him and super self-concisous, which is totally not me. I prefer big and muscular, like Vin Diesel or any football player, I just like big though, even if its not muscle and the guys just chubby. Thats just my taste though.



Be forward and honest with me. I am BIG on a guy being able to make me laugh so quoting any funny movie or show (anchorman, the office, superbad...) or andy samberg songs, I will be yours. and if you are just looking for friends with benefits, be honest and say it, dont pretend you want a relationship if you dont.

I vote tall and skinny!

Honesty. I can see through bullshiz like a pro.

I knew a girl that had a bf that beat for at least 4 years and they kept breaking up
and she kept forgiving him and she kept telling me that he would stop and he never did...
I started to date her but she went back to her bf that smacked her around...
Is that a sickness, dont you think she needs some professional help?
Or is there no help for that?

There are some women that like to feel like they can change a man or that they will magically change for them, which is not true. It might be a psychological thing with her where she thinks he might be a work in progress. There's also the popular saying, "it could never happen to me". So, I'm sure it's a bit of denial too. Hopefully she ditches his ass! Even going to a therapist might not help because it has to be her decision to leave, and her realization.

There is something in psychology called "the victim mentality" wherein people put themselves intentionally or even
subconsciously into situations where they will get hurt so that people will feel sorry for them.
Like the person that always complains they are broke but refuses to take money or get a job.

Theres also the cycle of abuse, where theres a buildup phase, then an outburst phase, then a makeup phase, so the abuser will say it will never happen again and they are so sorry and sometimes will buy gifts to make up for it, then the abused is convinced it wont happen again. Also, some people are scared to get out of a relationship, afraid that the abuser might come after them and do worse. Its a really sad situation anyway you look at it.

Yeah there are many reasons, plus real true love forgives even the worst crimes committed against them.
I still offered to beat him down though, some guys need that.

Just wanted to add that when you are in a relationship like that, the abuser is usually a skilled manipulator. The abuser will convince the partner that they will never find anyone who will love them as much. They will put the victim down until they believe that they are not worth anyone better than the abuser.

This is true, we are really great manipulators.

While we are on this topic, does anyone know what you tell a woman with two black eyes?

Hahaha!!! I know this joke, and I love it. But I don't. But it's just a joke.

I know that joke too, hahaha , I mean NOT FUNNY!

Anyone know how to get a discount on one of those russian mail order brides? Do they give refunds if you are not
fully satisfied?

Refunds? Doesn't Russia still observe Communism? You expecting to get your tomatoes back?

Maybe there is a two for one special you get tomatoes or vodka with your bride?

I dated a Russian once, he was CRAAAAZY, like planned out ways to murder people crazy.

most russian girls are crazy too...at least the ukranians anyways. very smart though.

Never trust a russian woman! She'll probably be a spy for their government and try to obtain all of our secrets and then DESTROY US.

It has been a while since I have been in here...and I think that everyone wants my opinion



It is a natural thing and many women I know do, as well as me. But I also know a few that don't and I have to say that their satisfaction in bed is hindered because of it. Liz is dead on with this one.





I care about all of these things, but each in varying degrees. These are animalistic attraction things. Take birds for example...The female bird is attracted to the bird with the brighter colors (looks), the better singer (sex), and the better gift giver (money). It's who we are and what we prefer that sets the tone on this one.

I don't care about money either, but at least have a job. Looks aren't that important but ugly guys aren't sexy to me. And sex isn't that big of a deal as long as the guy is willing to learn.



I like big guys...I'm a big girl and my attraction has 2 levels to it. I am afraid that I might hurt a little guy in bed and think that a big guy is better suited for 'handling me'. And if a guy were small next to me not only would I feel self conscious but I honestly dont find them attractive. Unless they are RPatt or Zach Ef yummo.




I will share this because I don't really care what people think of me or my choices. But I do believe that people could learn a thing or two from it.

First of all, No one can claim to know anything about a relationship except the two people that are in that relationship

I was in an abusive relationship for almost 10 years. We met in HS and things did not start off abusive or controlling. About 1 year in he started calling me names and belittling me in private. About 2 years in he would push me around or restrain me from leaving. About 4/5 years into it he started smacking me around. When we had kids he started getting worse at everything when my youngest was about 10 months old and my oldest was almost 3 I kicked him out. I tried my hard to make things work and was a victim of the cycle that is listed about. Yes the bad were bad but the good was so VERY VERY GOOD. I accepted the things that I was willing to live with, being smacked when I deserved it (I really thought this after so long), being called a b!tch every day etc.. But when I finally got the nerve to leave it was because I saw the way it effected my children. When I seen myself through my daughters eyes I did everything in my power to change it. I kicked him out, I went into first step counseling, I got my family and friends involved and just started telling everyone everything! I knew I never wanted to be in the cycle again and I even went and got a personal protection order against him.

Now over a year later we are the best of friends. As long as I remember the promise I made to myself and my kids I can get myself out of controlling situations and look for the signs of pending abuse before they happen. Yeah my family hates that we are close again but I promised myself and them that WE would NEVER be a COUPLE again.

The only thing you can do for your friend is to always remind her that you are there for her whenever she needs it and don't judge her for the choices she makes. You don't have to support those choices but you should not put her down for making them. This only further segregates her from the rest of the world and pulls her closer into his controlling behavior.

Also check out services on the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Tell her to just do you the favor of remembering the number.

I denied over and over that I was being abused but my family knew better. My dad always brought abuser literature home with him for me. I thought I didn't need it, until the day that I did. It took 9 months in counseling to figure out a way to deal but I think I'm all good now.

Other than it saying that I was not intellectual I agree with everything on here (pisces) and the leo one was dead on too

Dwight "Where is the clitoris?"
Toby shocked face.
"It said at the crest of the labia"
"What's a uterus?"
Toby still shocked

I saw a movie where there was a secret doorway in ladies' rooms where they all travel down a large hall and there is a big room where all the women of the world get together and talk about men. is this true?

Yep. We do much more than just talk though.